I have been refraining from posting anything about loss/grief for a while. The reason I stopped writing about it was I felt there is no point in sharing how it is like to lose a loved one especially a parent when people just cannot understand let alone help you and actually ‘be there for you‘. I have learned that loss/grief is something everyone deal with differently since during the grieving phase(even way afterwards), everyone feels differently. It hits people in different ways and only those who have been through are able to understand. So, I have been silent on this blog for a month now.
The other day I was watching the fifth season of Suits and in one of the episodes, Mike Ross (Patrick J. Adams) who by the way lost both his parents when he was 11, perfectly summed up some of the feelings. I just cannot resist sharing it here. He said, and I quote:
“First year you think about it every day. You relive it. Doesn’t matter what you do, you can’t get it out of your head. People tell you its a part of God’s plan. Maybe they’re right but that doesn’t stop you wanting to punch them in their face every time they say it to you. And time passes, two or three years, maybe you could start to feel normal. Maybe you start to believe that maybe this thing would not actually scar you for the rest of your life. But then one day something reminds you. A song or a smell and it touches that nerve and all of a sudden its the day you got that news all over again.”
Do remember my father and my family in prayers. Its been 6 months we lost him.